Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category

How Do You Deal with a "Damaged Dog"?

Friday, November 13th, 2009

How do you deal with a dog that is so seriously “damaged” that you can’t even approach it? Listen to Debbie Jacobs, author of “A Guide to Living and Working with a Fearful Dog,” as she shares her experience in working with Sunny, a “seriously damaged dog.” This book represents a very high level of understanding of dog behavior and dog training.

The “My Doggie Says…” show helps listeners gain a deeper appreciation for “Man’s Best Friend.” The show is broadcast live from 8:00 to 9:00 p.m. on Wednesday nights, on KFNX 1100, Phoenix. It is streamed live on www.1100kfnx.com. Host Fred Haney interviews dog whisperers, dog trainers, authors of dog books, and experts on all aspects of dogs and dog behavior and dog nature. The show is also available as a podcast on iTunes. Go to the iTunes store, click on “Podcast,” and search for “My Doggie Says…”

Check out the dog-relationship books written by all of the authors who have appeared on the “My Doggie Says…” show.

Also, remember to take our on-line poll: “How does your dog show affection for you?”

Training Without Dominance: A Guest Post by Dr. Susan Wright

Friday, November 6th, 2009

If you have had an interest in dogs for any length of time, you’ve no doubt heard the comment that dogs are a pack animal, and you need to be the alpha, or leader, in your dog’s pack or it won’t respect and obey you.

This “dominance theory” method of training is popular with followers of some well known dog trainers who are often featured in the media. They use techniques such as the “alpha roll”, where a dog is rolled over onto its back in a submissive position, to establish their position as pack leader.

Certainly there are a number of ways to train a dog, and this method may appear to work in some cases, but do we need to use such an assertive, dominant method to teach our dogs to behave?

Not according to the American Veterinary Society for Animal Behavior (AVSAB). Their position statement specifically states that the idea that dogs are pack animals and have a dominance based hierarchy just isn’t true. Furthermore, research on wolves in the wild indicates that their pack isn’t strictly controlled by one single alpha dog either.

That’s not to say dominance behavior between dogs doesn’t happen. It does, but it occurs when two animals are competing for a scarce resource, such as food. So, unless you’re trying to eat your dog’s kibble before he does, there’s no real place for a dominance type approach to your relationship with your dog.

According to the AVSAB, training your dog using dominance methods may result in him being afraid of you. Your relationship will be antagonistic and adversarial, and it will be based on fear and intimidation.

I know I don’t want my dog to be afraid of me. I want to have a partnership with him, where I teach him what I want, and he does his best to do what I ask. I want a bond with him so when he sees me, he wags his tail with delight, rather than tuck it between his legs in anxiety. That give and take relationship is what makes a dog man’s best friend.

What’s the alternative to dominance training?

Think about the trained dolphins in the marine parks, jumping through hoops and somersaulting in the air. These dolphins in the wild also establish dominance between the members of their pod. Do the dolphin trainers use any dominance techniques to teach these mammals to jump? No, they use a positive training method known as operant conditioning, where the dolphin learns that doing the right thing results in a whistle and a fish.

We can do the same thing with our dogs. Using a clicker, and food rewards, we can gently and positively shape our dog’s behavior so that he learns exactly what we want from him. By doing this, rather than punishing or dominating him when he does the wrong thing, we’ll learn to work together, with no relationship-destroying intimidation.

There are other things you can do to maintain a close and mutually respectful relationship with your dog. Don’t yell and scream when you’re angry, it will frighten him. You should be the one to feed him because if he sees you as a source of food, he will regard you in a very positive light. Similarly, spending time grooming and playing with him will allow you to share pleasant times and good fun, both of which will bring you closer.

If a trainer can teach a large marine mammal to jump into the air without force, compulsion or domination, we should be able to train our dogs in the same way. There’s no place for dominance in our relationship with our dogs. Take the time to look for alternatives – your dog will appreciate it.

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Why Can't I Play With That Coyote? By Callie Golden Retriever

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

Last Sunday morning, at Lake Arrowhead, Fred and I went out for our morning “read the news and pee” walk. It was a beautiful fall morning at the Lake. At 5,000 feet elevation, Lake Arrowhead has a pretty short fall season — not much more than the month of November. Most of the trees are pine trees, so there’s not a lot of color. The next most common tree is the oak, which turns to yellow and then, when the rains come, brown and then bare.

The dry oak leaves scare me sometimes. They race along the street when the wind blows hard, and they make a weird noise. The first few times I saw this, I was really puzzled. It took me a few minutes of staring to figure out what I was seeing.

Fred and I started to walk toward the cul-de-sac near our home, and then I decided to head the other direction. Fred’s pretty neat about letting me lead the way on these walks. This is a real important part of our dog-bonding. As Ted Kerasote (Author of “Merle’s Door”) says, I’m “reading the news.” I really enjoy sniffing everything in sight. It’s my way of checking out who’s in town, who’s been visiting, who peed where, and so on. Anyway, I started to walk toward the cul-de-sac, but a really exotic smell pulled me the other direction.

After I did my sniffing, I turned around and there, right in the middle of the cul-de-sac, was a really neat looking animal. It looked like a lot of my doggie friends, but it had a more pointed nose, very erect ears, a body slightly smaller than mine, and very healthy looking grey fur. I started pulling on my leash to go say a big “doggie hello,” but Fred grabbed my leash and yelled, “No Callie, that’s a Coyote and he’d like to eat you for breakfast!”

Wow! I don’t want to be anyone’s breakfast — I don’t care what kind of animal it is. So I guess I learned an important lesson from Fred: “Don’t mess with Coyotes.”

When Fred pulled me back, the Coyote saw him and decided this was a bad place to be. So it ran, very gracefully I would say, down the hill, through our yard and back toward Willow Creek, which is probably where it hangs out.

I really like the way Fred lets me lead the way on our “sniffing” walks, but I’m also glad that he keeps me out of trouble sometimes.

Actually, we have a few coyotes around home, too, but we don’t see much of them. They live in the “barranca” near our house, and they stay pretty close to the creek, which is about 100 feet down in a steep canyon.

Here’s a photo of a coyote that Fred took in Yellowstone Park. It’s not the same coyote I saw on Sunday, but it looks the same to me. I’m sure glad it’s jumping on a little vole and not on me. Come to think of it, that guy did smell a little trashy.PRE_0040 (2)

What is this stuff falling out of the sky? By Callie Golden Retriever

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

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Last night, while Fred and Barbara were in the den, I noticed that things looked real different outside. It was dark and the street in front I our house was all shiny, and the house lights were bouncing off the trees and the street. It looked very different from what I’m used to.

And little rivers — like someone kicked over a big puppy-water bowl — were running down the street. And stuff was falling out if the sky and splatting on the street and on the leaves across the road.

I was very scared, so I started barking to warn Fred and Barbara. I mean really barking and barking in my loudest full-grown dog voice. After all, I’ll be three years old in January.

Finally Fred walked into the room and said, “it’s OK, Callie. It’s rain. I know it never rains in Southern California, but this is the first storm of winter.”

After Fred said that and knelt down beside me and gave me a real good puppy-scratch, I felt lots better. I quit barking and went back to the den to suck on “stinky.

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You should listen to Fred’s interview with Debbie Jacobs, of Fearful Dogs.com. The interview will be posted soon. Fred talks with Debbie Jacobs about her experience with fearful dogs.

I guess for a while last night I was one.

Bye for now.

Callie

Learn About "Puppy Love" on the "My Doggie Says…" Radio Talk Show

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009

Liz Palika, award-winning author, dog trainer and pet expert talks about her new book, “Puppy Love,” on the “My Doggie Says…” radio talk show. Liz also discusses her approaches to dog training.

Click here to see Liz’s other books; she is a prolific writer about dogs!

The “My Doggie Says…” show helps listeners gain a deeper appreciation for “Man’s Best Friend.” The show is broadcast live from 8:00 to 9:00 p.m. on Wednesday nights, on KFNX 1100, Phoenix. It is streamed live on www.1100kfnx.com. Host Fred Haney interviews dog whisperers, dog trainers, authors of dog books, and experts on all aspects of dogs and dog behavior and dog nature. The show is also available as a podcast on iTunes. Go to the iTunes store, click on “Podcast,” and search for “My Doggie Says…”

Check out the dog-relationship books written by all of the authors who have appeared on the “My Doggie Says…” show.

Tiki, Blue-Fronted Amazon Parrot (19?? – September 15, 2009)

Wednesday, September 16th, 2009

Tiki, a blue-fronted Amazon parrot, has been a member of our family since about 1990. She started out as our son Brad’s bird, when he was attending UC Irvine. But when Tiki ate the draperies in Brad’s rental apartment, she moved back home and became, mostly, Barbara’s bird. Birds have the reputation for being pretty much one-person animals, and Tiki was not an exception. She was 100% Barbara’s bird and maybe 40% mine. She wasn’t aggressive toward me, but she wouldn’t let me stroke her beak or feathers like Barbara could.

Final PDFs for Book 057 (3)This photo of Tiki is from “My Doggie Says: Messages from Jamie.” It shows the fun, symbiotic relationship that Tiki and Jamie had. Every morning, Tiki would sit on her cage, eating a piece of toast. Jamie, knowing that Tiki would eventually drop the last little piece, sat, patiently, until she got her bite.

Tiki is a bit of a mystery bird. We’re not sure about her age or her sex.

At first, Tiki was a “he.” But, after about 10 years, a bird expert announced, “Tiki is a she.” So Tiki, the “he,” became Tiki, the “she.” And now we’re confused again, because Dr. Rosskopf, Tiki’s vet, still calls her “he.”

We’re also not sure how old Tiki was when she left us. For all the time we owned her, we assumed that Brad obtained her as a baby, which would have made her about 19 years old. But last Tuesday, when Dr. Rosskopf showed us Tiki’s tumor, he said, “This is making me think Tiki is much older than we thought. This is typical of a 40-50 year old bird, not a 19 year old.”

So we called Brad to double check Tiki’s age, and, it turns out, he wasn’t sure how old she was when he first got her.

So, Tiki, the mystery bird, started out as a 19 year old “he,” and ended life on Tuesday as a 50-something “she.”

Another of the mysteries of Tiki’s life involved an animal psychic who came to our house to “talk” with our three dogs, a cat, and Tiki. I was being a little skeptical, and it seemed like most of the conversations were sort of predictable interactions with a dog or a cat. But when the animal psychic got around to Tiki, she said, “Tiki told me that she rode down the hallway on Jamie’s back one time.” Well, that was absolutely true. One time, we balanced Tiki on Jamie Golden Retriever’s back and they walked the length of the hallway. I’m sure there was no way for the animal psychic to know that, other than being told by Tiki.

Tiki and Callie did not have the same kind of relationship as Tiki and Jamie. Maybe because in the last year, or so, Tiki has had a difficult time perching on the outside of “her” cage. But yesterday, Callie clearly sensed that something was missing in our lives. She was obviously morose. Maybe she just picked up on my mood, but I think dogs are pretty smart about these things. Anyway, Callie and I had a long talk about it and we both wished Tiki a happy journey.

Goodbye, Tiki. You were a great bird!

Memoirs of a Bathtub Psychic: The true story of a clairvoyant and her dogs.

Thursday, September 10th, 2009

Bethanne Elion, author of “Memoirs of a Bathtup Psychic: The true story of a clairvoyant and her dogs,” relates her uncanny ability to “tune-in” to dogs, which included an ability to “see” the location of lost, or missing, dogs.

The “My Doggie Says…” show helps listeners gain a deeper appreciation for “Man’s Best Friend.”  The show is broadcast live from 8:00 to 9:00 p.m. on Wednesday nights, on KFNX 1100, Phoenix. It is streamed live on www.1100kfnx.com. Host Fred Haney interviews dog whisperers, dog trainers, authors of dog books, and experts on all aspects of dogs and dog behavior and dog nature. The show is also available as a podcast on iTunes. Go to the iTunes store, click on “Podcast,” and search for “My Doggie Says…”

Check out the dog-relationship books written by all of the authors who have appeared on the “My Doggie Says…” show: http://mydoggiesays.com/?page_id=1479

Dean Koontz on the "My Doggie Says…" Radio Show

Thursday, September 10th, 2009

Dean Koontz has published over a 100 books, and, in many of them, he has included a dog as a character. He has also written several books about Trixie, his Golden Retriever, such as “Life is Good! Lessons in Joyful Living,” by Trixie Koontz, Dog. On the occasion of the release of his newest dog book, “a big little life: A Memoir of a Joyful Dog.” Dean describes the close relationship between himself and Trixie, as well as several humorous things that Trixie did. He also expresses amazement at Trixie’s intelligence.

The “My Doggie Says” show helps listeners gain a deeper appreciation for Man™s Best Friend. The show is broadcast live from 8:00 to 9:00 p.m. on Wednesday nights, on KFNX 1100, Phoenix. It is streamed live on www.1100kfnx.com. Host Fred Haney interviews dog whisperers, dog trainers, authors of dog books, and experts on all aspects of dogs and dog behavior and dog nature. The show is also available as a podcast on iTunes. Go to the iTunes store, click on “Podcast,” and search for “My Doggie Says…”

Check out the dog-relationship books written by all of the authors who have appeared on the “My Doggie Says” show: http://mydoggiesays.com/?page_id=1479

Learn how to teach your dog to "shake paws" and how to care for it at home

Wednesday, September 9th, 2009

Deb Eldredge, author of the “Dog Owner’s Home Veterinary Handbook,” and Kate Eldredge, author of “Amazing Pet Tricks,” on the “My Doggie Says…” Show. Learn how to care for your dog at home. Learn how to use a clicker to teach your dog to “shake paws.”

The “My Doggie Says…” show helps listeners gain a deeper appreciation for “Man’s Best Friend.” The show is broadcast live from 8:00 to 9:00 p.m. on Wednesday nights, on KFNX 1100, Phoenix. It is streamed live on www.1100kfnx.com. Host Fred Haney interviews dog whisperers, dog trainers, authors of dog books, and experts on all aspects of dogs and dog behavior and dog nature. The show is also available as a podcast on iTunes. Go to the iTunes store, click on “Podcast,” and search for “My Doggie Says…”

Check out the dog-relationship books written by all of the authors who have appeared on the “My Doggie Says…” show: http://mydoggiesays.com/?page_id=1479

Kyra Sundance, on the "My Doggie Says…" Show

Wednesday, September 9th, 2009

Kyra Sundance, author of “101 Dog Tricks” talks about her books, her stunt-dog team, and “doing more with your dog” on the “My Doggie Says… ” Radio Talk Show. Listen and learn how to teach your dog the “spin around,” or “chase your tail,” trick.

The “My Doggie Says…” show helps listeners gain a deeper appreciation for “Man’s Best Friend.” The show is broadcast live from 8:00 to 9:00 p.m. on Wednesday nights, on KFNX 1100, Phoenix. It is streamed live on www.1100kfnx.com. Host Fred Haney interviews dog whisperers, dog trainers, authors of dog books, and experts on all aspects of dogs and dog behavior and dog nature. Listen to past interviews at www.mydoggiesays.com/. The show is also available as a podcast on iTunes. Go to the iTunes store, click on “Podcast,” and search for “My Doggie Says…”

Check out the dog-relationship books written by all of the authors who have appeared on the “My Doggie Says…” show: http://mydoggiesays.com/?page_id=1479